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Dalai Lama

2 books · 3 interviews

happiness · wellness

What they argue

The Dalai Lama is a thinker who treats happiness as a trainable mental muscle rather than a destination reached through external circumstances. He works in the territory of mental well-being, focusing on the cultivation of compassion, social fitness, and the management of internal mental states to navigate a chaotic world.

  1. Happiness as a Skill

    Happiness is not something that happens to us; it is something we do through intentional practice. It is a mental muscle that must be trained by shifting the brain's default settings from self-centeredness to pro-sociality.

    From The Art of Happiness (book)

    • Says much the same Gretchen Rubin — Happiness as a SkillHappiness is an active practice rather than a passive state of being. It requires the same kind of training as a sport or a musical instrument, involving repetition,…The Happiness Project
    • Says much the same Martin E.P. Seligman — Happiness as a SkillHappiness is not a personality trait one is born with, but a set of behaviors and mental habits that can be developed over time. It involves the deliberate cultivation…Authentic Happiness

  2. Joy vs. Happiness

    Happiness is often a reactive state influenced by external circumstances, such as a promotion. Joy, however, is an active practice of cultivating a mindful and compassionate orientation toward reality.

    From The Book of Joy (book)

    • Says much the same Naval Ravikant — Happiness as a SkillHappiness is not a destination reached by fulfilling desires, but a skill developed over time through understanding truths. It is a malleable state of 'peace from mind'…How to Be Happy
    • Says much the same Gretchen Rubin — Happiness as a SkillHappiness is an active practice rather than a passive state of being. It requires the same kind of training as a sport or a musical instrument, involving repetition,…The Happiness Project

  3. Social Fitness

    Social fitness is the ability to maintain and deepen human connections as a primary source of mental and physical health. Because humans evolved to survive through collaboration, these connections are essential to our well-being.

    From The Cake Incident | Part 2 of The Dalai Lama's Guide to Happiness (episode)

  4. The Training Model for Emotional Regulation

    This involves a three-step process for handling irritation: identification of the feeling, identifying the 'should' (the mental demand for the world to be different), and then letting go of that demand. This helps address the mismatch between our perceptions and reality.

    From The Book of Joy (book)

    • A related idea Jen Lumanlan — The Reappraisal ProtocolTrue emotional regulation is taught when parents model the internal process of reappraising their own feelings rather than than suppressing their reactions. This 4-step…056 Beyond “You’re OK!” Modeling Emotion Regulation
    • A related idea Travis Bradberry — The Pause ProtocolWhen experiencing an emotional spike or trigger, individuals should follow a four-step process: Identify the physical sensation, Name the emotion, and then proceed to…Emotional Intelligence 2.0

  5. Inner Weather Resilience

    While individuals cannot control the 'outer world' of politics or chaos, they can manage their 'inner weather' or mental state. This allows for a resilient, internally-generated source of well-being that is independent of the external world.

    From The Enlightened Mind | Part 5 of The Dalai Lama's Guide to Happiness (episode)

    • Says much the same Ask DS — The Inner CitadelThis is a mental fortress of purpose, confidence, and strength that remains untouched by external criticism, pressure, or violence. It shifts the locus of control from…Can You Build a Castle? | Ask DS

  6. Training vs. Motivation

    The Dalai Lama distinguishes between 'motivation' (the desire to be happy) and 'training' (the actual practice of changing habits). Most people want to be happy but lack the discipline to engage in the actual training required.

    From The Art of Happiness (book)

Every idea names the summary it came from. Written by a local model from this mind’s own work, never from memory.

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