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Emily Morse

Emily Morse

1 book · 21 interviews

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What they argue

Dr. Emily Morse is a sex educator and expert who works at the intersection of sexual health, psychology, and interpersonal relationships. She focuses on dismantling cultural myths and shame to help individuals and couples reclaim their sexual agency and pleasure.

  1. The Veil of Shame

    Society often treats sex as a shameful secret rather than a natural human experience, which prevents people from seeking necessary information. This cultural stigma creates a 'shrouded mystery' that leads to sexual dissatisfaction.

    From A MasterClass on Sex (Finally!) (episode)

    • A related idea Emily Nagoski — The "Status Quo" TrapPeople often stay within a "status quo" of sexual behavior because it feels safe and lacks the risk of rejection. However, this can lead to a stagnant sex life because…Ask Emily: Oral, Orgasms & Anal
    • A related idea Kevin Leman — The Vacuum of SilenceWhen parents avoid discussing sex due to discomfort, they do not stop their children's curiosity; they simply create a vacuum filled by less reliable sources like peers…A Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids About Sex

  2. Collaboration over Individual 'Fixing'

    Sexual problems in long-term relationships are dynamic issues created by two people rather than one person being 'broken.' Success depends on shifting the focus from who is the problem to what dynamic the couple has created.

    From Am I The Asshole for Watching Porn Without Telling My Partner? (episode)

    • Says much the same Justin Lehmiller — Communication as the Foundation of IntimacySexual dissatisfaction is often a communication failure disguised as a physical one. True intimacy requires moving past the 'guessing game' of what a partner wants and…Tell Me What You Want
    • A related idea Michele Weiner-Davis — The Performance TrapSexual problems are often symptoms of a psychological environment where a woman's frustration leads to pressure and a man's anxiety. Treating sex as a chore or a test…A woman's guide to changing her man

  3. The Myth of Spontaneous Desire

    Many people believe they should simply 'be in the mood' for sex, but many actually experience responsive desire where arousal is a reaction to specific stimuli. Sexual satisfaction is a skill that requires intentionality rather than waiting for a spontaneous spark.

    From Closure w/ Your Ex & Other Success Stories (episode)

    • A related idea Justin Lehmiller — The Evolutionary Roots of DesireOur sexual preferences are largely shaped by ancestral survival strategies. These strategies were specifically designed to help humans find high-quality mates and…The Psychology Of Human Sexuality
    • A related idea Jean-Jacques Rousseau — The Taxonomy of DesiresTo understand personal motivations, one must distinguish between Natural Needs (Amour de soi), which are biological and immediate, and artificial desires. This helps…A Discourse on Political Economy

  4. The Definition of Cheating is Relational

    There is no universal definition of whether watching porn constitutes cheating; it is only cheating if it violates the specific trust and agreements of a unique relationship. Partners must move from judgment to agreement by defining their own personal values.

    From Bonus Episode: Is Watching Porn Cheating? The Truth About Digital Betrayal (episode)

  5. Pleasure as a Birthright

    Pleasure is a fundamental human right and not something that must be earned through productivity or specific milestones. When people view pleasure as a reward, they create a 'performance' loop that can block their ability to experience it.

    From Hotline Calls: Troubleshoot Your Orgasms (episode)

    • A related idea Carol Gilligan — Relational PleasurePleasure is an ontological and relational 'opening' that allows humans to transcend solitary survival to create a shared world of meaning. It is the capacity to be…The Birth of Pleasure

  6. The Cost of Sensory Truncation

    When the human body is forced into environments that truncate the five senses, such as during 'Zoom fatigue,' the brain can become anxious. To achieve great sex, one must intentionally engage the full sensory apparatus of the body to create feelings of safety and pleasure.

    From Elevate your 5 Sexy Senses (episode)

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Books 1

Interviews 19

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