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Sharon Salzberg

Sharon Salzberg

6 books · 5 interviews

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Sharon Salzberg is a thinker who explores the psychological dimensions of emotions, specifically focusing on how we relate to ourselves and others. She works in the territory of mindfulness and emotional regulation, teaching how to move from reactive, contracted states of fear and anger toward a state of 'basic okness' and open awareness.

  1. Anger and Fear as a Contracted State

    Anger and fear are two different forms of the same underlying psychological state characterized by a contracted, expressive, and reactive withdrawal. Anger is the 'energized, outgoing' form, while fear is the 'frozen, imploded' form.

    From How to Break Your Anger Habit | Sharon Salzberg (episode)

  2. Loving Kindness as a Strategic Tool

    Loving kindness (metta) is a strategic psychological tool that expands one's perspective and provides 'optionality' in the face of fear and anger. It allows for firm action without the destructive 'blind rage' of hatred.

    From How to Break Your Anger Habit | Sharon Salzberg (episode)

  3. Self-Compassion vs. Self-Love

    While 'self-love' is often treated as a superficial slogan, 'self-compassion' is the practical application of tenderness and the admission of vulnerability. It is a trainable skill of 'generosity of the spirit' that allows for a move away from self-flogging.

    From Me, A Love Story: How Being OK With Yourself Makes You Better at Everything | Sharon Salzberg (episode)

  4. The Two-Part Definition of Compassion

    To move from being overwhelmed by others' pain to being helpful, one should use a framework of Empathy (The Resonance) and Compassion. Empathy involves feeling the 'quivering of the heart' in response to seeing pain.

    From Me, A Love Story: How Being OK With Yourself Makes You Better at Everything | Sharon Salzberg (episode)

    • A related idea Richard Schwartz — Compassionate Internal RelationshipTrue emotional healing occurs when you stop trying to 'fix' symptoms and instead cultivate a compassionate relationship with the wounded parts of yourself. Healing…You are the one you've been waiting for

  5. The Trap of 'The Story'

    Suffering arises when we believe the narratives we construct around our emotions, such as 'I am a mess' or 'I am fundamentally broken.' Once we believe these stories, we stop looking for solutions and instead identify with the narrative.

    From Sharon Salzberg On: Openness, Not Believing the Stories You Tell Yourself, and Why the Most Powerful Tools Often Seem Stupid at First (episode)

    • Says much the same Lori Gottlieb — Narrative PrisonsOur greatest struggles often stem from the stories we tell ourselves about who we are and what we deserve. While these narratives help us make sense of our pain, they…Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
    • Says much the same Melody Beattie — Resistance as the Source of SufferingOur suffering is not caused by our emotions or our past, but by our resistance to them. We often treat our inner lives as problems to be solved or projects to be…The language of letting go

  6. Openness as Breathing Free

    Openness is the ability to breathe free and see options by refusing to let the 'stories' we tell ourselves about our emotions turn into a fixed, suffocating identity. It involves not letting the initial arising of a feeling become a permanent character trait.

    From Sharon Salzberg On: Openness, Not Believing the Stories You Tell Yourself, and Why the Most Powerful Tools Often Seem Stupid at First (episode)

  7. The Space-Making Protocol

    When a high-energy emotional state like anxiety or panic rises, one should stop the 'damping' reflex of trying to suppress the feeling. Instead, the goal is to create space for the emotion rather than shutting down the room around it.

    From Sharon Salzberg On: Openness, Not Believing the Stories You Tell Yourself, and Why the Most Powerful Tools Often Seem Stupid at First (episode)

    • Says much the same Kaira Jewel Lingo — Softening expectations in practiceWhen overwhelmed by grief or anxiety, the goal of meditation shifts from 'calming the mind' to simply 'being there' for yourself. High expectations for a quiet mind can…How To Meditate When You're Freaking Out | Kaira Jewel Lingo
    • A related idea Matthew Brensilver — The Sobriety ProtocolThis framework helps individuals move from a state of 'Hyper-Arousal' to 'Collective Wisdom' by identifying when dread is a reaction to a manufactured alarm. It…How To Handle AI Anxiety: A Computer Scientist and a Buddhist Teacher On Managing Uncertainty | Cal Newport & Matthew Brensilver

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