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Dossie Easton

Dossie Easton

5 books

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What they argue

Dossie Easton is a thinker who explores the dynamics of ethical non-monogamy, power exchange, and kink. She focuses on shifting sexual experiences from external social scripts to internal values, proactive communication, and intentional consent.

  1. Internal Values vs. External Scripts

    The core of ethical non-monogamy is moving away from social scripts toward internal values and proactive communication between consenting adults. Success in non-monogamy fails when people try to apply monogamous rules to non-monogamous structures.

    From The Ethical Slut (book)

  2. The Bottom as Director

    The bottom is the primary architect of the sexual experience because they possess the full data set of what feels good. They are the person in charge of the pace, depth, and intensity of the act.

    From The New Bottoming Book (book)

  3. Power Exchange as a Gift

    A submissive does not lose power but gives it to the Top, making the Top's primary job to be worthy of that gift. Topping is a position of responsibility and accountability for a partner's safety and well-being, not a license for entitlement.

    From The New Topping Book (book)

  4. The Spectrum of Kink

    Kink is a spectrum of human behavior rather than a binary 'normal vs. abnormal' state. It ranges from 'light' activities like roleplay to 'heavy' activities involving intense power dynamics.

    From When Someone You Love Is Kinky (book)

  5. The Communication Loop

    To ensure you are being heard during difficult conversations, use a three-step process involving 'I' statements to state your needs. This is a tool to navigate the complexities of non-monogamous relationships.

    From The Ethical Slut (book)

    • A related idea Lori Gottlieb — The Communication PathWhen stuck in a cycle of avoidance or looping arguments, one should identify where they are staying silent to protect themselves or others. This method helps break the…Encore: Having Hard Conversations: How to Avoid Being Avoidant
    • A related idea Harville Hendrix — The Needs-Based Communication LoopWhen feeling the urge to criticize a partner, individuals should identify the trigger and locate the underlying emotional need. This process helps move away from…Keeping the love you find

  6. The Communication Spectrum

    This framework categorizes communication into 'Right Now' (immediate physical adjustments like 'Stop' or 'More') and 'Directional' (guidance). It allows the bottom to take agency over their pleasure and safety.

    From The New Bottoming Book (book)

  7. The Negotiation Blueprint

    Before any scene, a 'Container' must be built using a checklist that includes safety checks like safe words and non-verbal signals. This ensures the Top is responsible for the partner's physical and emotional safety.

    From The New Topping Book (book)

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